About Us
I LOVE helping my clients to transform their lives in ways that invite more joy, emotional intimacy, and love.
And I bring a large array of gifts to my practice. In addition to being a certified Sexologist and Anger Management Specialist, I am also a trained Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Counselor and an IFS (Internal Family Systems) Informed Relationship Coach.
My natural abilities for deep empathy augment these formal trainings in ways that facilitate personalized coaching. I help my clients create the life of THEIR dreams. And that's the key component of my Shame Free Zone: I am here to serve people with a wide variety of lifestyles, spiritual practices, sexual orientations and relationship/love preferences.
The IFS Parts Work I guide my clients through and my Five Steps to Exquisite Partnership transform my clients' lives in ways that exceed their wildest dreams! You too can create more harmony and happiness in your life with the right help. Am I the right help for your transformative journey? Let's find out!
My coaching services are available online or in my downtown Grass Valley office. You deserve to live the life you desire. I would love to help you turn your dreams into reality so let's start that conversation today.
How We Got Started
I consider what I do a sacred calling because I have an uncommon gift for helping my clients locate deep feelings and hidden obstacles. It all begins in our hearts.
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"Her coaching services are available online or in her downtown Grass Valley office. You deserve to live the life you desire. She would love to help you turn your dreams into reality so let's start that conversation today.
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I help couples turn their anger into intimacy and their problems into connection! I specialize in long-term relationships with entrenched issues an...
I am the only Certified Sexologist in Nevada County! I am certified through the American College of Sexologists and can answer ANY and ALL question...
Five Simple Steps to say your NO while creating Compassionate Connection and Increased Intimacy! Learn more in my New Full Color FREE Ebook. It's c...
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"I loved being part of her Girlfriend Hour! She is a mover and shaker and builds community for..."
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"I loved being part of her Girlfriend Hour! She is a mover and shaker and builds community for women! Great colleague and friend to women."
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It's discouraging to live in a county that is so anti-science and anti-logic.
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It's discouraging to live in a county that is so anti-science and anti-logic.
Yes to converting business online! Less pollution. Less traffic. Better for us. Better for the environment. And we also need better internet in less populace areas in the USA. To do that, we have to break the strangle hold of monopolies who limit our internet access/speed.
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Yes to converting business online! Less pollution. Less traffic. Better for us. Better for the environment. And we also need better internet in less populace areas in the USA. To do that, we have to break the strangle hold of monopolies who limit our internet access/speed.
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I am sanitizing my office between clients. And I no longer hug my clients which is a loss but much safer for all of us! Let's take precautions and focus on the love!
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I am sanitizing my office between clients. And I no longer hug my clients which is a loss but much safer for all of us! Let's take precautions and focus on the love!
After college, I worked in lower management positions in various Silicon Valley companies. At one computer company that is now defunct, I encountered a huge snag in my professional path. A female supervisor demanded that I get her a hamburger on my 30 minute lunch. I informed her that I only had...
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After college, I worked in lower management positions in various Silicon Valley companies. At one computer company that is now defunct, I encountered a huge snag in my professional path. A female supervisor demanded that I get her a hamburger on my 30 minute lunch. I informed her that I only had 30 minutes and driving to get her hamburger during that short break, would prevent me from eating my sack lunch. I had no plans to leave our corporate premises but hoped to grab 30 minutes of peace outside on the lawn. She was livid but couldn't do anything about it because I didn't answer to her. I worked for another supervisor. But in time she was able to transfer me away from my supervisor and into her department where she proceeded to reprimand me for everything she could imagine including "not smiling enough." Mind you, I was not dealing with the public. My job entailed answering phones and sitting in a cubicle where I had zero contact with our customers. I have yet to meet any man who has endangered his employment by "not smiling enough." I should add that it was 1989 and women didn't have as many rights in the workplace as we do now. Eventually her emotional abuse was too much for me to take and I resigned. Next stop? Hollywood. My boyfriend was trying to launch his music career and I hoped to become an author so we traveled to Hollywood to investigate our options. A friend had introduced me to a powerful Hollywood producer whom shall remain nameless for the sake of this story and he invited me to a private showing of the movie "Earth Girls are Easy" starring Jeff Goldblum and Geena Davis. I should have known I was in trouble by the title of the movie but I was young and #MeToo was nearly thirty years from becoming a thing. After the movie, he invited me to dinner at his Hollywood Hills home with this teenage kids. That seemed safe enough. But no, after our strange dinner of steamed artichokes and ice cream (really?), his two teens left the house. I engaged this movie producer in some shop talk and then he made his move, attempting to kiss me. I turned my head and looked at him with surprise. I hadn't even thought of this as a date but he obviously did. And here is what he said when I refused the kiss: "I thought you wanted to be an actress." "No," I replied, "I want to be a writer." Perhaps not the best response but it was the only thing that came to mind in my state of surprise. I explored a few other opportunities in LA but they all led to gross #MeToo moments so I crossed Hollywood off my list of options and headed to San Francisco where I became . . . a high-end escort. I figured if everything was going to come down to my gender, I might as well get paid royally for it. And I did. Over the course of the next fourteen years, I earned a six figure annual income, got married, raised two kids and became a very vocal spokesperson for sex worker rights. I was on everything from CNN to John Kasich's Heartland on FOX News to Bill Maher's Politically Incorrect. I transitioned from escorting in 2004 which was also the year I got a divorce. My book deal was a slam-dunk at that point. As someone who had been interviewed for major media for all of those fourteen years, I was able to quickly secure an agent and an advance from a major east coast publisher. So, DID become an author after all. The road to that reality shocks some and delights others. I wonder how you feel about my unusual professional path? Today I am a relationship coach and certified sexologist (of course) and I am writing my second book: Love, Lust and Romance in the Wake of #MeToo.
What I love most about the work I do, is being a catalyst and coach for huge and meaningful healing in the lives of my clients. Once we work our way past the confusion and grief, there is a mountain of freedom and joy on the other side. Seeing how happy my clients are after working diligently to...
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What I love most about the work I do, is being a catalyst and coach for huge and meaningful healing in the lives of my clients. Once we work our way past the confusion and grief, there is a mountain of freedom and joy on the other side. Seeing how happy my clients are after working diligently to move past their dysfunctional patterns is a high like no other. Every night when I go to sleep, I send up a prayer of gratitude that I actually get paid to do this work. What a privilege.
As a certified sexologist and relationship coach, I absolutely specialize in intimate partner wellness. However, that is a topic that encompasses a lot of terrain! It includes everything from sexual "dysfunction" to anger management. I teach something I call the Exquisite Partnership Formula....
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As a certified sexologist and relationship coach, I absolutely specialize in intimate partner wellness. However, that is a topic that encompasses a lot of terrain! It includes everything from sexual "dysfunction" to anger management. I teach something I call the Exquisite Partnership Formula. It's a five step process for asserting a "No" that creates more intimacy and heart connection. The couples I work with rave that their sex lives experience a rebirth once they master this simple communication tool.
It's true. Sort of. We all know the couple that has been together forever even though their relationship is nothing to brag about. They ignore each other or fight a lot. The sex is boring if it exists at all. Yet after all these years, they haven't found the courage to address their issues in any...
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It's true. Sort of. We all know the couple that has been together forever even though their relationship is nothing to brag about. They ignore each other or fight a lot. The sex is boring if it exists at all. Yet after all these years, they haven't found the courage to address their issues in any meaningful way.
What might that look like anyway?
As a relationship coach what I see is most couples really love each other and they stay together hoping things will improve. Or they assume all relationships get boring or tedious over time. And they don't really think things could be better.
If things get really bad, they wind up in my office as a last ditch effort to salvage the relationship. And I can often help them turn things around. But it would be better if they got help before then. Because by then, the feelings of hurt are pretty deep.
Rather than just focus on making a relationship last, I suggest you shoot higher than that! Don't settle for what everyone else has. Dare to claim the full expression of relationship happiness. Because it really is possible.
It's what I do. I help couples achieve the level of joy and connection and intimacy and sexual fulfillment that I live every day in my own relationship. You can learn my top tip for not only creating a lasting relationship but also a joyful, romantic love connection with your partner. Just check out the book I wrote about it here:
https://publishizer.com/how-to...
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I have a blog and I also repost on a paid portal for relationship coaches: Your Tango. In today's market, blogging and vlogging are essential. Well perhaps that is mostly true for coaches? But I don't think so. Most anyone who wants to attract potential clients or customers online needs video and...
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I have a blog and I also repost on a paid portal for relationship coaches: Your Tango. In today's market, blogging and vlogging are essential. Well perhaps that is mostly true for coaches? But I don't think so. Most anyone who wants to attract potential clients or customers online needs video and text on their website and the SEO's need you to post frequently. That is where I fall down and where I will improve this year!
That's easy. I serve my clients. Service is a fabulous way to get out of a funk or even depression (unless of course you are suffering from chemical imbalances). Service is a core aspect of my spiritual path and aligning myself with my spiritual path is how I get out of funk. Nothing lifts my...
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That's easy. I serve my clients. Service is a fabulous way to get out of a funk or even depression (unless of course you are suffering from chemical imbalances). Service is a core aspect of my spiritual path and aligning myself with my spiritual path is how I get out of funk. Nothing lifts my spirits more effectively than working with my clients.
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Here’s what my clients appreciate most about me:
1. They KNOW they’ll be accepted and valued no matter what they share with me.
2. They value my skills as an empath because I can get to the solutions they need much more precisely.
3. They want a dynamic combination of spiritual guidance and...
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Here’s what my clients appreciate most about me:
1. They KNOW they’ll be accepted and valued no matter what they share with me.
2. They value my skills as an empath because I can get to the solutions they need much more precisely.
3. They want a dynamic combination of spiritual guidance and concrete steps to their desired goals.
4. They know they can obtain information about sex and sexuality that is not available from their doctor or even online.
5. They trust me to see and foster their personal best!
