Local Discussions What's happening in the Stony Point business community
Curious, how much does grammar matter to you?
This question comes up for me more often than the average person, I'm sure, as a lover of language arts (and silent mental editor of all typos).
Right now, it's on my mind becauseI was looking through the recommendations I've earned here on Alignable to find a few to feature on my new website, and I noticed that many people spelled my name "Latoya" rather than "LaToya."
Iknow it looks like an insignificant difference, but my mother named me "LaToya (actually she took it a step further and spelled it "La-Toya" , but the dash is over the top for me and didn't make it far into adulthood). When I see "Latoya", it just doesn't feel like my name.
Iknow most people don't go around noticing and wanting to fix grammatical gaffs, and that is understandable.
Does it matter if you spell people's names like they do?
Posted by LaToya, New City, NY on Sep 24, 2023 • in Stony Point NY
Just sharing this CPA Networking event- 10/24/23 6pm - 9pm Patriot Lounge in Stony Point- Rockland County
18 Locals Recommend Them • Posted on Friday, January 5, 2024
Having served in the military, I had to learn to respect a number of different conventions (guest in a foreign nation and all), so I... (more)
Having served in the military, I had to learn to respect a number of different conventions (guest in a foreign nation and all), so I learned that getting people's names, as well as cultural norms, right is critical in both respect and public metrics. I have not always succeeded in name pronunciations, but I make the effort to try, often asking them to pronounce their name slowly and allowing me to try to get it right. This is a show of respect which people remember.
One girl that I dated was half-Vietnamese and she had a Vietnamese name, which was difficult to pronounce. I tried and got it close to right, which she appreciated. While I was overseas, we had a guy in our unit who was born in Sri Lanka and everyone called him Houdini. That was because, as it turned out, no one could pronounce his surname, but I could, and he said that I was the first American-born soldier that he had met in the service that could pronounce his real last name (using last names instead of given names is a common thin in the military). Then there are the cultural norms in every country. Getting those things right, or at least making an effort to, means a lot to the locals, wherever you go.
So, whether it is name pronunciation or cultural behavior, getting, or making a real attempt to get it right, always matters, It's about earning respect.