Once my husband sad to me that I was gaining weight and I told him to get a smaller woman and walked away. Never heard that again and we are still married, 20 years. With my first husband, I lost all this weight and was going to the gym and he was cheating. LOL I feel like if you're going to make personal changes, it has to be your inner self at play. Once you make the decision than get the support you need from the outside.