Referrals are a two way street...Talk is cheap, because everyone says the same thing at group meetings.  Pick one business you would like a relationship with.  Have a face to face meeting (can not have a relationship with a cell phone) and tell them you would like to develop a relationship and what value you can bring to their business.  Go to the meeting with a qualified lead.  At the end of the meeting, hand them the lead and shake their hand.  Follow up, follow up, follow up.  No whining...follow up...  You will be surprised how this will work.  Networking meetings to me is where you find the people you want a relationship with....not where you get jobs.  Been doing this over 50 years. Still works..