We move seniors into senior living. Curious: how do you find the resources that you need when moving an elderly relative into senior living? What honest reasons do you have for keeping them in their home?
I think familiarity keeps a senior as long as possible, in their home. Their sense of belonging, and memories play a part in their mental health. Each time, as the years pass, a senior is moved, the uncertainty increases. I will be the senior, in the future, but my neighbors have dealt with this, for a few years. They call on family to help. The weeding out of possessions, and moving of items falls to family and close friends. I've not known anyone who hired a service for this.
My mother is such a senior, living along in her home, and this is a current debate in our family. The biggest factor in her not moving into senior living is she doesn’t want to. So long as she is functional and not a danger to herself, it is hard to argue.
I don't know about in Texas, but in California, almost every city and county have Assistance for the elderly. They have dinners promoting Insurance, Hospice, Hearing Aids, everything. Including Movers.
The unfortunate part is that family members that should be attending these events for their elderly family members, aren't. They barely have their own life planned. Now they have to try to figure how to work this into their day too! That's why it remains undone.
I'm the youngest of my siblings. The oldest is 10yrs older and should be looking at this stuff for himself lol.
However, when my parents were 70, I had them to a Reverse Mortgage to eliminate any struggle for them in the future...14 YEARS WITHOUT ANY MORTGAGE PAYMENTS! They're stoked! 2 years ago, I started taking my parents, then 82, to these events so they can LEARN more and ease their way into getting prepared. No one likes to be reminded that they are getting older.
I'm in the industry so I am aware that some families will traditionally keep their family members with them. I think this will change within the next generation.
Most people would simply prefer to stay in their home when they begin to need help with the activities of daily living. We help people create written plans, including financing an extended care event in home or in facility, well in advance of needing care. We have any number of resources that help people think through all that must be considered when creating a plan for care. I'd be happy to share with you.
It is one of the toughest things to deal with. I have helped clients move to independent senior living communities and assisted ones too, ones that specialized in memory care, etc. but usually their family members or a scary accident forced the issue. Sometimes just having a visiting nurse and a housekeeper can help keep one at home but other times it is simply time to make a move. I try to help based on the individuals needs.
Current trends in healthcare financing are supporting the care at home model, but many seniors' health conditions make it difficult in not impossible to remain at home with the appropriate care without substantial financial resources (which most lack). Most chronic conditions eventually result in a hospitalization, which are required to discharge patients to an appropriate care setting to meet their needs. And while home may provide substantial psychological and emotional benefits to an individual, the care needs, level of independence, costs and family support (or lack thereof) may require other placement options. Most communities have extensive networks of geriatric managers and caseworkers who are knowledgeable about senior services and help families assess specific needs and find available resources within their communities.
Most people want to stay at home. But there are so many factors you have to think about. First and foremost is the person safety. Its important to put things in place to ensure the person is safe at home. Another important factor is social isolation. Is a person socially isolated and lonely. What is there personality are they a social person and would benefit from social programs outside of the home. There are lot of factors to consider. You would want to discuss this with the individual and family to see what their wishes are and what is the best decision for everyone. Sometimes yo need a outside to help you navigate what is the best solution for the person and family. Please don't hesitate to call us at xxx-xxx-xxxx. We are here to help you.
Either out of safety issues or wanting to move to a community, do not get on the internet and put in your personal information. You will be relentlessly contacted by phone or email. Find a senior living advisor and meet with them personally. Be sure they do not give your contact information out as they look for a community. The advisor should personally tour each community, looking at specific questions they will ask you. I have helped numerous families that entered personal information and some communities will contact up to a year about you moving in, even though you have already made a decision. Bless all those looking to move, either themselves or a loved one, during a time that is not easy and knowing not all the questions to ask.
I definitely agree that it is familiarity and cost. A lot of seniors get put into facilities and then forgotten, they know what going to places like that means unfortunately. Dealing currently with the situation, my mother-in-law refuses to leave her home, she does need someone to come by daily to check on her but every time she thinks someone was there to remove her or if she suspected any foul play, she calls the police. She keeps the telephone in her dress pocket. She had early onset of Dementia along with a few other problems, she is calling the police just out of forgetfulness. She has it set in her mind that she intends to die in her home of 65+ years. Financially, it is better on her and the family to get home healthcare to come by her residence 2 to 3 times a week and the family in between. The cost to be in a facility with some kind of care is $200 plus per day. I don't think the issue is necessarily finding a place, I think it's several factors like family support, money, how much care do they really need, do they have a spouse, how mobile are they, do they want to leave their home (familiarity), are they of sound mind to continue to make decisions for themselves, etc. Each senior will have a unique circumstance, so far in my experience, I have not met a senior that wants to leave their home willingly.
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I think familiarity keeps a senior as long as possible, in their home. Their sense of belonging, and memories play a part in their mental health. Each time, as the years pass, a senior is moved, the uncertainty increases. I will be the senior, in the future, but my neighbors have dealt with this, for a few years. They call on family to help. The weeding out of possessions, and moving of items falls to family and close friends. I've not known anyone who hired a service for this.
My mother is such a senior, living along in her home, and this is a current debate in our family. The biggest factor in her not moving into senior living is she doesn’t want to. So long as she is functional and not a danger to herself, it is hard to argue.
I don't know about in Texas, but in California, almost every city and county have Assistance for the elderly. They have dinners promoting Insurance, Hospice, Hearing Aids, everything. Including Movers.
The unfortunate part is that family members that should be attending these events for their elderly family members, aren't. They barely have their own life planned. Now they have to try to figure how to work this into their day too! That's why it remains undone.
I'm the youngest of my siblings. The oldest is 10yrs older and should be looking at this stuff for himself lol.
However, when my parents were 70, I had them to a Reverse Mortgage to eliminate any struggle for them in the future...14 YEARS WITHOUT ANY MORTGAGE PAYMENTS! They're stoked! 2 years ago, I started taking my parents, then 82, to these events so they can LEARN more and ease their way into getting prepared. No one likes to be reminded that they are getting older.
I'm in the industry so I am aware that some families will traditionally keep their family members with them. I think this will change within the next generation.
Hope this helps and wishing you great success!
Most people would simply prefer to stay in their home when they begin to need help with the activities of daily living. We help people create written plans, including financing an extended care event in home or in facility, well in advance of needing care. We have any number of resources that help people think through all that must be considered when creating a plan for care. I'd be happy to share with you.
It is one of the toughest things to deal with. I have helped clients move to independent senior living communities and assisted ones too, ones that specialized in memory care, etc. but usually their family members or a scary accident forced the issue. Sometimes just having a visiting nurse and a housekeeper can help keep one at home but other times it is simply time to make a move. I try to help based on the individuals needs.
Most people want to stay at home. But there are so many factors you have to think about. First and foremost is the person safety. Its important to put things in place to ensure the person is safe at home. Another important factor is social isolation. Is a person socially isolated and lonely. What is there personality are they a social person and would benefit from social programs outside of the home. There are lot of factors to consider. You would want to discuss this with the individual and family to see what their wishes are and what is the best decision for everyone. Sometimes yo need a outside to help you navigate what is the best solution for the person and family. Please don't hesitate to call us at xxx-xxx-xxxx. We are here to help you.
Either out of safety issues or wanting to move to a community, do not get on the internet and put in your personal information. You will be relentlessly contacted by phone or email. Find a senior living advisor and meet with them personally. Be sure they do not give your contact information out as they look for a community. The advisor should personally tour each community, looking at specific questions they will ask you. I have helped numerous families that entered personal information and some communities will contact up to a year about you moving in, even though you have already made a decision. Bless all those looking to move, either themselves or a loved one, during a time that is not easy and knowing not all the questions to ask.
I definitely agree that it is familiarity and cost. A lot of seniors get put into facilities and then forgotten, they know what going to places like that means unfortunately. Dealing currently with the situation, my mother-in-law refuses to leave her home, she does need someone to come by daily to check on her but every time she thinks someone was there to remove her or if she suspected any foul play, she calls the police. She keeps the telephone in her dress pocket. She had early onset of Dementia along with a few other problems, she is calling the police just out of forgetfulness. She has it set in her mind that she intends to die in her home of 65+ years. Financially, it is better on her and the family to get home healthcare to come by her residence 2 to 3 times a week and the family in between. The cost to be in a facility with some kind of care is $200 plus per day. I don't think the issue is necessarily finding a place, I think it's several factors like family support, money, how much care do they really need, do they have a spouse, how mobile are they, do they want to leave their home (familiarity), are they of sound mind to continue to make decisions for themselves, etc. Each senior will have a unique circumstance, so far in my experience, I have not met a senior that wants to leave their home willingly.
Check with their health insurance first and or community resources available to you check with Shelter Arm if you are in Houston or Arrp